Question: We cannot avoid losing our loved ones at some point in our lives. It’s a rule because everyone must die eventually. And this is the most painful experience that anyone must suffer. In the article below, Thay Thich Truc Thai Minh will teach you how to overcome grief and find peace after the death of a loved one.
The answer from Thay Thich Truc Thai Minh: Sooner or later we will have to leave our loved ones in this life because everyone has to die. It is a law.
When someone we love passes away, we tend to think that they are gone forever, thus we will feel sorrow and pity for them. That feeling is common among human beings. The root cause of this is we do not see the truth and the nature of life.
If we understand that the nature of life is impermanence and that death is only the beginning of a new journey, our sorrow will lessen. A person who is fully awakened to the absolute truth will see clearly that death is not the end and he even knows where that person will go after death.
It’s our perception that matters. We must realise the truth, or be awakened, as Buddhism puts it. If we can do that, then there will be no sorrow, and our minds will be at peace.
Because we don’t see the truth, we suffer. Buddhism teaches us to see the truth for what it is, and we will not feel sorrow. Thus, if we become wise, we can eliminate our suffering and sorrow. It is a basic principle – to see the truth.